You say things without showing or proving them. They merely seem hollows words invented to fit a narrative constructed to achieve precisely what you accuse others of: making yourself feel comfortable with your imperfect choices.

Sure. Regardless, it wasn’t a criticism. Your words seemed true and the situation common by my observation. There are some west Asian ‘third world’ cultures I have observed where marriage is not tied to any bond of intimacy or cohabitation, and now I see that as the direction of modern society as well. I’m not ready to make a value judgement on that. Maybe after a few lifetimes trying different pairing strategies.

At no point did I write about the absence of intimacy, cohabitation, or Asian 'third world' cultures.

You're not making much sense.