It's definitely more nuanced for sure. Factors that can play into it can include but aren't limited to race, social standing and class, country that you are living into etc. I agree there's a have vs have nots at play at times but I don't think you can discount race at play either.

As an example, I always found it interesting that when I moved to the US, I found the words use suddenly disappears despite there being lots of people that could fit that mold. Has anyone experienced otherwise? I'd be curious to know