Re:Dating Sites Are Not Built for Men
by jfengel on Wednesday April 21, 2021 @03:01PM
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I believe you'll find that most women are less interested in "flexes" than your post suggests. Every woman is different, of course, but I believe you'll find it won't solve the problems that women have.
They do care about being lied to, so if you claim to be a chess master and you're not, that's bad. But a link to your chess.com account isn't the solution. Playing a game of chess together is the solution. The fact that you can beat other people is of little interest, true or not.
Even if she doesn't play chess, and you can tell interesting stories about chess games, that can be successful. But that's not solved by linking to your account. It's solved by telling stories.
Women hate being lied to about your salary, but to a large degree they just want to know if you're comfortable and not have money be an issue. HN often presents a mercenary view of women, and while I'm sure it does sometimes happen, it's just not true very often.
Yes, it's hard to date when you're poor -- because it's hard to date when you're poor. But you can easily make up for it by being entertaining and interesting, which can be free. Meet in a park and just talk. That means far more to most women than anything you could demonstrated on LinkedIn.
As you say, your experiment will succeed or fail on its own merits, and best of luck to you. But I believe you'll be most successful if you treat women as people who are looking for somebody to spend time with -- from a night to a month to a lifetime. Find ways to present men that emphasize those aspects of them, and I believe you'll have a better chance of connecting men and women.
They do care about being lied to, so if you claim to be a chess master and you're not, that's bad. But a link to your chess.com account isn't the solution. Playing a game of chess together is the solution. The fact that you can beat other people is of little interest, true or not.
Even if she doesn't play chess, and you can tell interesting stories about chess games, that can be successful. But that's not solved by linking to your account. It's solved by telling stories.
Women hate being lied to about your salary, but to a large degree they just want to know if you're comfortable and not have money be an issue. HN often presents a mercenary view of women, and while I'm sure it does sometimes happen, it's just not true very often.
Yes, it's hard to date when you're poor -- because it's hard to date when you're poor. But you can easily make up for it by being entertaining and interesting, which can be free. Meet in a park and just talk. That means far more to most women than anything you could demonstrated on LinkedIn.
As you say, your experiment will succeed or fail on its own merits, and best of luck to you. But I believe you'll be most successful if you treat women as people who are looking for somebody to spend time with -- from a night to a month to a lifetime. Find ways to present men that emphasize those aspects of them, and I believe you'll have a better chance of connecting men and women.