>We as engineers need to say "screw you, never"

The engineers have spoken. They say, "I'm getting paid too much to care."

Or they look at it from my perspective- who cares? According to you this is an issue but from another perspective there are clueless users who accidentally denied the permission and are grateful later. Can we really afford to have every engineer constantly objecting to the slightest subjective interpretation of what makes a dark pattern?

That's not for me to decide.