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Re:Ask HN: How can a unhireable person get a job? by guenthert on Friday April 16, 2021 @01:43PM (#26836920)
> I also learned how to emulate empathy,

Please don't. I know a guy who does the same. It comes across as utterly condescending.

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Re:Ask HN: How can a unhireable person get a job? by bawolff on Friday April 16, 2021 @09:07PM (#26840757)
You know that the people failing to do it, do it badly. You have no idea how many people in your life succesfully do it. (Survivorship bias)
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Re:Ask HN: How can a unhireable person get a job? by nate_meurer on Saturday April 17, 2021 @12:48AM (#26841646)
Empathy is very much a learned skill. "Pretending" to care is a good way for me to get someone's attention and learn a bit of their story, and then find something to relate to.
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Re:Ask HN: How can a unhireable person get a job? by Aloha on Saturday April 17, 2021 @12:21AM (#26841553)
hen I fail to do it correctly, I get immediate negative feedback. If I fail to do it at all, I get immediate negative feedback - its part of success for me.

I do genuinely care about people, I just cannot for the life of me understand why things upset others.

Failing to do it, makes me less employable, and less successful socially.

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