> Oh and now I have to make it work in the IDE too, click through a billion menus and dialogs, sync the build system, sync the dependencies, configure runtimes and classpaths, try to rebuild for the 10th time, pray.

That is not my experience at all. I dont have to rebuild work project many times. Creating new scratch project for playing in is easy and fast. Dependencies are managed by maven and I rarely have to deal with that beyond added dependency tag.