> For some reason we never tell women that.

This is just not true. If you are a woman, it is told to you over and over and over and over again. And women do occasionally talk about it when they talk with each other. Women even know that with age the risks are higher! Shocking, I know.

Also, average age of first birth in united states is 26.9 years old.

Yet also, those who have kids soon suffer lifetime consequences.

People may mention this, depending on your location, but as a society, no.

As a society, it is mentioned all the time. By pundits for political or cultural war reasons. Or inside articles about family. Or in articles about women health, or babies conception. In discussion about demographics. In discussion forums like this. It is talked about casually whenever any surrounding topic is talked about. Even reddit threads about relationship problems have that mentioned often. It is just not a secret.

If you never cared about family planning or female health, you never seen it. Arstechnika, the verge or gamera sites never writes about that. But it is not society not taking about it.

The US makes it very difficult on women who choose to have children. Maybe if we provided more support (financially, logistically, hell emotionally) they’d be more apt to have kids earlier. For my wife and I, we weighed the pros and cons and it was clear it was a bad move for us, so we passed.

> Maybe if we provided more support (financially, logistically, hell emotionally) they’d be more apt to have kids earlier.

The opposite seems to be true; the more support is available, the longer people try to put off childbearing.

This is the case in all of the western world. We push women in the direction of careers and never mention the consequences.

At the same time, while in some ways people are rich these days, we can't seem to find the time or money to have kids. That's not much of a choice. It's more that people react their to circumstances. If anything it's a form of "ethical" birth control.

Whole your theory is based on assumption that women are clueless. Meanwhile, you don't seem to care about cost of various choices to them.

Of course, admitting that maybe women do know all of that and decide to not have kids anyway would be too difficult.