I'm talking about someone I know who has been in precisely this situation.

You don't know anything about me, or that situation, but you are happy to accuse me of:

- Claiming to speak for lesbians - Spreading propaganda from bigots - Using "abuser tactics" - Having unexamined prejudices - Making prejudicial assumptions - Having no respect for trans people - Not engaging in good faith

I'd actually be really happy to discuss this topic in good faith, as it's important to someone I care about, and you clearly have a very different opinion. But I'd want you to read the HN guidelines first and make an effort to follow them.

> If you make blanket statements like “I’m not attracted to people of X group,” you likely have some unexamined prejudice

Does that also apply when the group is men/women (as opposed to AMAB/AFAB folks which would be the 'gender critical' view)? Should we all be pansexual?

What about lesbians who are concerned that some AMAB folks in their community might simply objectify them sexually, in a way that others would be a lot less likely to? Doesn't that seem like a good reason to be a bit warier when interacting with some group of people?

There's quite a gap between "there are some women lesbian L would not date" and "all trans women are really men".