Just my perspective: being diplomatic practically never includes the term "wokeness". The term is pretty much exclusively disparaging. You're accusing people of being insincere in their preferences.

The word is a catchall ad hominem, used to dismiss any argument such that people don't really mean what they say, without having to address their actual argument at all. I'd suggest that any time you're tempted to use that in an argument, you might consider skipping that and talking instead about the actual thing under discussion.