Californians aren’t leaving the state en masse but are leaving San Francisco

Re:Californians aren’t leaving the state en masse but are le... by Kalium on Monday March 08, 2021 @06:06PM (#26392882)

I use it to place the blame of someone refusing or failing to understand on myself. The goal is not to signal a lack of investment, but to give someone a way to admit to being wrong without actually having to admit to anything. It sometimes helps remove a person's ego as an obstacle.

It's the difference between "I failed to be understandable" and "You failed to understand". With the former, they can come back and say that since I've clarified so helpfully, they agree with me without impugning their previous position. The latter allows no such latitude.

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Re:Californians aren’t leaving the state en masse but are le... by viklove on Tuesday March 09, 2021 @11:42AM (#26400533)

> but to give someone a way to admit to being wrong without actually having to admit to anything

It also shows that you have no humility and can't accept that you might be wrong. That's what I'm trying to say.

> It's the difference between "I failed to be understandable" and "You failed to understand".

You can't even imagine a situation where the other party in the discussion understands your perspective but simply disagrees?

> It sometimes helps remove a person's ego as an obstacle.

Start with yourself.

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Re:Californians aren’t leaving the state en masse but are le... by mcguire on Tuesday March 09, 2021 @10:35AM (#26399764)

As an aside, I understand your argument. I simply disagree.

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