On top of that, until the past couple years, there were only a few exotic ARM builds (probably mostly in custom or enterprise land) that even had standard PCIe slots, so many vendors didn't (and still don't) test their drivers—even if compiled for ARM—on any real hardware.
I hope this changes, especially since Macs now have ARM64, the Pi CM4 supports it, and some other inexpensive SBCs have 4x or even 8x lanes on the more expensive ones (is there an ARM motherboard out there with a 16x lane bus?).
For the Pi in particular, until the CM4 came out, very few people would ever get access to the PCIe bus on the regular Pi 4 model B, so only enough work was done on the kernel side to ensure the VL805 USB controller worked, and a few bits were just never fully implemented or tested (e.g. BAR allocations, MSI-X support, some memory access functions).
For servers at sky-high prices only.
For $699, your closest choice might be the NVIDIA Jetson AGX Xavier... PCIe 4.0 but with a x8 slot, and an NVMe M.2 x4 PCIe 4.0 slot too.
And the Xavier has an official-but-still-beta EDK2 firmware available too, which includes ACPI support and can even boot Windows. (https://developer.nvidia.com/embedded/downloads#?search=UEFI...)
Yes, GPU 3D acceleration is currently not supported there yet, but the LX2K doesn't have a GPU at all anyway...
I've been tracking progress on this site / repo: https://pipci.jeffgeerling.com/
GNU/Linux obviously is amd64 centric. There's still a tremendous amount of dismissiveness towards anything that's not amd64 (we're even seeing it towards 32 bit x86). So if something doesn't work properly on a non-amd64 system, it's usually not considered a high priority.
The BSDs are much better about this. If something doesn't work, that means it's broken even if it works where 98% of people use it, so it gets fixed. I can, and have, plugged LSI and other RAID cards in to several different non-x86, non-amd64 systems and had them work exactly as expected.
That and the drivers are still murky blobs that I would guess on average don't have much thought put into them from a pure software engineering perspective
I'm curious about this; naively, I expect hardware/drivers to be basically independent of architecture/platform. If I've got the connectors/adaptors, why can't I plug in any arbitrary card and have it work?