The unusual ways Western parents raise children

Re:The unusual ways Western parents raise children by blub on Wednesday February 24, 2021 @03:27PM (#26255332)

There's the extinction method which is the most hardcore and there's also the Ferber method which has the parent periodically check in with the baby.

Extinction is extreme, as one is basically abandoning the child to cry. They're scared, they don't know what's happening and they're alone.

Sure, they're (probably?) not gonna suffer long-term damage, but it's just an asshole thing to do. In the book recommending this method all parents had their instincts screaming that they're doing something wrong and they were feeling guilty even if it worked.

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Re:The unusual ways Western parents raise children by jahewson on Wednesday February 24, 2021 @04:35PM (#26256353)

It’s not suitable for new babies, that’s for sure. But if you’re closer to the 1yr mark then they’re not crying because they’re scared, they’re crying because they know exactly what’s happening and they want to party and not go through the effort of figuring out how to go to sleep, again.

Some kids are just nuts. Ours both were. We went from an hour-long party of rolling, chanting, screaming, head-butting the wall, pulling the hair of any nearby parent, multiple times a night, to... asleep in 10mins. It felt bad at first until we saw how much his mood improved in the daytime because he wasn’t exhausted.

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