Re:The unusual ways Western parents raise children
by paddlepop on Wednesday February 24, 2021 @02:04PM
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This is called the Ferber method and it worked very well for us as well.
Note to others considering using it, the method is just as much about the ritual leading up to sleep (bath, reading a book, etc)
Re:The unusual ways Western parents raise children
by andrewem on Wednesday February 24, 2021 @10:41PM
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“Solve your child’s sleep problems” by Richard Ferber, M.D. is the book which includes this. It also includes a lot more, including an overview of sleep physiology including phases, as well as lots more like details about night terrors and other “partial arousals”.
The big thing he says for going to sleep is to set up the desired sleep associations (eg, alone in the crib in a dark quiet room if that’s what you choose) and then ensure the child falls asleep in that situation and it doesn’t change while they sleep. So for instance, don’t let them fall asleep on your lap then move them to the crib, because when the next normal sleep cycle ends and they partially wake up, they will discover something is different and get upset.
Re:The unusual ways Western parents raise children
by cashewchoo on Wednesday February 24, 2021 @03:30PM
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Ah I can see that, we've always had a pretty rigorously-respected bedtime routine.
Next night, 10, 15, 20, 30, 30, 30...
next night, 15, 20, 30, 30, 30....
At some point it went up to like 30 mins for first check, then an hour for subsequent checks. I think if we'd gotten to that point we'd consider trying something else cause that's a lot of crying.
But in practice we never had to really adhere to most of the structure because iirc it was like:
Night 1: 5, 10, 15, asleep. Night 2: 10, 15, asleep. Night 3: asleep. Night 4: 15, asleep.
Then he was sleep trained and has slept like a rock with 0-30 seconds of fussing (usually 0) (and ~never crying) since.