Trying to get as many people as possible and asking on social media to help you "find" someone these days is practically a death sentence, regardless of gender. Especially in gaming. I legitimately don't understand how that kind of ask is not harassment. You know the type of people that will surface when you put that ask out there.

I understand the part where they would like to know a bit more about it, but sending pages and pages of physical letters, at least to me, I find this creepy and weird/obsessive

The people that are accusing me of trying to remove women or some 'damsel in distress' thing don't seem to understand that in the gaming space, people calling in threats or attempting to kill you in person because you made a disliked game balance change is real, applies to males, and is a baseline behaviour, or that females in gaming are subject to significantly worse harassment by orders of magnitude; look at the cesspool that is/was pokimanehot.