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Re:Highest rates of teen bullying are between friends and fr... by rorykoehler on Saturday February 20, 2021 @01:24PM (#26206463)
I remember being relentlessly bullied during a specific period as a kid. Only when I decided to decisively fight back did it end and it ended immediately. It’s a lesson I won’t be forgetting.
Re:Highest rates of teen bullying are between friends and fr... by benjohnson on Saturday February 20, 2021 @01:33PM (#26206539)
Same experience. And I lost the fight badly.

Just showing that you have the ability to strike back is often enough.

Oddly, became friends with my tormenter and had a lot in common.

Re:Highest rates of teen bullying are between friends and fr... by throwawayboise on Saturday February 20, 2021 @01:43PM (#26206647)
I've seen the same thing happen with one of my kids, including the development of a friendship.

Grandfather was right -- if you get hit, hit back, twice as hard.

Re:Highest rates of teen bullying are between friends and fr... by lotsofpulp on Saturday February 20, 2021 @03:52PM (#26207846)
Does this advice work for any difference in sizes between the people? I suspect if one is so small as to not pose any threat at all and/or take on extra damage, it would end badly for them more often than not.
Re:Highest rates of teen bullying are between friends and fr... by benjohnson on Saturday February 20, 2021 @05:04PM (#26208408)
For me... yes. I was significantly smaller and was only able to weakly punch his chest. I got punched in the face and got a black eye and a sore skull.

As an adult the concept works. Bees can’t hurt me significantly, and even when they land an attack they die - but I go out of my way to leave them alone.

Re:Highest rates of teen bullying are between friends and fr... by krageon on Monday February 22, 2021 @06:30AM (#26223298)
> I suspect if one is so small as to not pose any threat at all and/or take on extra damage

The trick is to turn off the switch in your head that tells you to stop if you're in too much pain or something is very wrong. Only real lunatics will keep going at someone that fights like that, and those are pretty rare.

Re:Highest rates of teen bullying are between friends and fr... by kar5pt on Saturday February 20, 2021 @02:39PM (#26207107)
The bullying that I experienced was verbal. Hitting the bullies for saying mean things probably would have been overreacting (and lead to me getting in trouble), but it was happening in class so I couldn't "walk away" either.
Re:Highest rates of teen bullying are between friends and fr... by nicolas_t on Sunday February 21, 2021 @02:08AM (#26211497)
I experienced a lot of bullying in middle school (junior high I guess in the US), almost everyone in the school called me the fag (le pédé in French). This was in the 90s so at that time homosexuality was much less accepted than it is today. It was verbal, I didn't fight back and had a hell of a year.

When I went to highschool, someone in the class came up with a new nickname for me, despite much smaller than that person I fought back, I punched him as hard as I could, got badly punched back too. But after that, no one ever called me by that nickname.

When my son goes to school, I will tell him to fight back in case of bullying. It's the way the world works and if I had known that in middle school, I would have had a much better time and wouldn't have had thoughts of suicide.