Parents of daughters are more likely to divorce than those with sons

Re:Parents of daughters are more likely to divorce than thos... by aksss on Monday February 08, 2021 @12:53PM (#26067762)

I second this, you can blame society or figure out why you keep picking bad partners. Here’s a hint - there are warning signs that a partner is not going to be good relationship material. One may not be a deal-breaker but there’s a stacking effect. Some of these warning signs: child of abusive parents; child of alcoholic parents; mental disease struggles; alcoholism; drug dependency; anger issues; constantly yelling; habit of lying (whether in telling casual stories about themselves or making statements to others); alternate value system; bad financial management skills; severe identity questions.

There are enough fish in the sea that you do not need to take these characteristics into a marriage.

Find someone that shares your values, your vision of the future and ideally has a similar background to your own - unless you’re the one with the warning signs and are trying to “marry up”.

I don’t mean to diminish the importance of love, attraction, and personality compatibility, but for marriage it’s all that and a bag of chips.

Can you beat the odds? Sure. The point is the aforementioned attributes will make your life much, much harder than it already will be.

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Re:Parents of daughters are more likely to divorce than thos... by Retric on Monday February 08, 2021 @01:28PM (#26068187)

You don’t need to pick a bad partner to get utterly fucked over. Sure, paying attention to warning signs is important, but believing making a sound choice is going to protect you is “just world” fantasy land.

However, don’t assume it’s about them, perhaps you’re the one that gets tempted to break things off for one reason or another. Are you happy with all the choices the you of 20 years ago made? Sometimes divorce is a straightforward process where people can remain friends after the fact, but that’s rare as normally someone’s upset.

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Re:Parents of daughters are more likely to divorce than thos... by aksss on Monday February 08, 2021 @02:25PM (#26068918)

There are always exceptions to rules, I'm not sure we need to dwell too much on that fact. This is about risk reduction, not absolute protection.

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