Agreed, and it isn't a static thing defined at birth by nature, it can change backwards and forwards over a lifetime.

Not sure why i'm getting a hard time from our co-commenters. I assumed this place being primarily US and Tech it would be quite liberal.

Heh, the political spectrum of this place is broad and well-distributed, but the quality of discussion _tends_ to be more respectful than most forums.

I'm quite (socially) liberal and I thought your post was simply wrong, for starters. Among the places you can ask the question "what is being gay" without getting "dogpiled" are countless gay sites. Aren't gay sites part of the internet?

How can a question be wrong?

The statement I take issue with is "[...] this might be one of the last places left on the internet you can ask a question like this without getting dogpiled."

There are lots of places on the internet where asking honest questions about the gay experience is not scary and will not get you flamed. Indeed, the existence of such venues is crucial to the self-discovery of gay people — especially gay people who live in hostile environments, and who may be in great need of a kind confidant.