Re:Parents of daughters are more likely to divorce than thos...
by askl56 on Saturday February 06, 2021 @05:36PM
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You don't think they have the right to have an opinion? How tolerant.
Everyone doesn't have to "live under" it, you don't have to get married.
I suspect having Mummy and Daddy being together "until further notice" would have disastrous impacts on children's sense of permanence and development.
Re:Parents of daughters are more likely to divorce than thos...
by alexvoda on Saturday February 06, 2021 @06:34PM
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That is defacto reality. If every kid at least knows a kid from a divorced family the damage to the sense of permanence of the family unit has already been done.
Re:Parents of daughters are more likely to divorce than thos...
by eggbert12 on Sunday February 07, 2021 @02:15PM
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Not necessarily. I knew people from different families who were divorced, but rationalized that my parents were different and more committed, and so still just accepted it as an axiom that families stay together (except when they don’t).
While obviously not that consistent, as a kid I perfectly accepted that logic. If I try to place myself in that same mindset, I think I’d find the definition of “marriage is together until further notice” far more concerning than knowing some divorced parents.
I would say the most sensible thing is simply the mutual declaration for the sake of administrivia, that until any of the members of a marriage say otherwise, we all are married. The only reason to even have the document is just for things like power of attorney. Who shall be considered a legal guardian responsible for a child, who is allowed to make decisions for another while they are incapacitated, etc. And the expiration date is "until further notice".
I don't think you have a right to call that sort of family sad or "tragic".
That's actually incredibly insulting, even abusive when it's embedded in policy that everyone has to live under.
Just imagine if I called your family sad and tragic. Even if I used hard unavoidable data to back up the judgement.