Two points: The war is happening in the Russian speaking part of Ukraine. To that point I'll put everything I have and double down with debt that a westerner would not be able to tell which folks are "Russian" and which are "Ukrainian" in this conflict.

Civilians are getting the brunt of it on both sides. Don't think for a second that Ukrainian forces avoid hitting civilian targets in some display of galantry. It's a brotherly war and nobody wants it.

Not sure what you mean by this. It is very easy for one side to pack their bags and leave, if they "don't want it".