After years spent with Linux, then with macOS, my solution has been to finally move to Windows 10. My linux subsystem is as stable as I want it to be, I have full control over it. It takes a bit of time to get used to the Windows world and find the good GUI tools, but once you get more familiar with it things work ok. And Windows doesn't break my system with every upgrade the way macOS does (the things that change over time are mostly UI updates, not fundamental changes).

That's not for everybody, but after ~1.5 year I can say I'm satisfied with my choice, WSL has really been a game changer.