Re:I schedule my friendships like I schedule my meetings
by chrisseaton on Thursday January 21, 2021 @04:51PM
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Spontaneity isn’t realistic outside your early 20s, when people start to get married and have children. You can't expect your friend to be be spontaneous if they're got to pick up their children from school.
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Re:I schedule my friendships like I schedule my meetings
by elric on Friday January 22, 2021 @09:34AM
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I'm going to disagree with that. Spontaneity just changes a bit, it's not a boolean choice. You can spontaneously ask a friend to do something, and if they can't (because of kids or whatever) then you can schedule it. Is this less spontaneous than going over unannounced as a kid? A bit, yeah. But at least it still feels like fun. Scheduling friendships "like meetings" with "recurring events" is the polar opposite of spontaneous. That just feels like work.