Re:I schedule my friendships like I schedule my meetings
by dbrueck on Thursday January 21, 2021 @04:22PM
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This could be a gold mine of awkwardness, like if one side of the relationship now suggests a recurring invite twice a month and the other side was thinking, "once a year is plenty for me".
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Re:I schedule my friendships like I schedule my meetings
by clintonb on Thursday January 21, 2021 @04:32PM
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That sounds great. I’d much prefer adults have an honest conversation than go along with different views of the relationship.
Re:I schedule my friendships like I schedule my meetings
by jancsika on Thursday January 21, 2021 @05:08PM
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Even in the OP's hypothetical that you're responding to, one of the participants lied! We all can surely think of reasons why someone would do that currently with the benefit of conversational ambiguity. And I see no evidence that any of those reasons would go away by making the request for "friendship time" or whatever explicit.
In fact, since narcissists clearly exist, adding that level of explicit request to casual conversations could easily make people more mendacious. Compare current blow-off of, "Yeah, narcissist, maybe we can get together for a beer if I ever get a break from my job," to the explicit, "Yes, narcissist, I agree to Zoom twice a month." Nobody's going to want to do the latter, but the narcissist will certainly make the request so an explicit lie is now required in return.