Exactly. As an example, WASPs don't do that because they're too "nice," but will tell you about their prejudices if they trust you. They're fundamentally dishonest while wearing the lipstick of civility. (I'm mostly white, but I distrust and am embarrassed by many whites.)

The lemonade from the lemons is when people reveal themselves, it makes the self-selecting associations easier and saves you time, like you said.

More love, less hate. Namaste.