https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/It_takes_two_to_tango
The meaning of this expression has been extended to include any situation in which the two partners are by definition understood to be essential (...).
more generally, when someone says something you find incredulous, consider processing that internally, and then decide if saying "huh, now i know" is not a better reaction to "no way, maybe you're wrong."
Doubling down to say "This sounds so far out", and continuing to argue, doesn't really indicate curiosity.
And to the original point - he's not wrong. Of course from life experience we all know that there are exceptions to every rule, but the rule as written was that just a few stable adults suffices. Saying "it takes surprisingly few to tango" is completely different meaning from "it takes two to tango", so the comparison to that is not relevant (and the-dude does mistake that phrase, which is specifically used to call out that one is not enough). How many does it take? It takes surprisingly few. You have enough even if you only have a few.
It takes two to tango is about the tango going to happen, not the minimal required circumstances for it to happen if all other stars align.