> What irks me is people who use the equal sign as in T(n)=O(n log n), though. Why would a function equal a class? Set membership notation does the job just fine.

It's strange but it's fully standard. I would guess it develops from the use in analysis, where o(n) is more common. You derive your formula, it has a term in it that you don't want, you observe that "complicated term's numerator = o(n)", you take your limit, and the term vanishes away. Use of the = sign makes more sense there, because conceptually you're claiming something about the value of the term. (Specifically, that in the limit, it's equal to zero.)