Re:Toxic positivity does more harm than good
by im_down_w_otp on Saturday January 16, 2021 @02:53PM
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I tend to see "toxic positivity" as an attempt to gaslight people, but with the presumption of good intentions, and that presumption of good intentions somehow washing away the deleterious effects of gaslighting people. Somewhat unsurprisingly it turns out it's the gaslighting that's the problem, not entirely the motivation for engaging in it. My experience has been that high-performing people gravitate toward being motivated by engagement with reality, not by suspending disbelief to engage in contrivance or farce. This is true on the other side of it as well. They won't tolerate "toxic negativity" either, which is just another form of gaslighting in an attempt to motivate by way manufactured crisis or exigency.
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Re:Toxic positivity does more harm than good
by sneak on Saturday January 16, 2021 @03:21PM
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I generally refrain from comments that don't contribute to the discussion, but having already done the thing that indicates "good comment", I still wanted to cosign and further express how spot-on this comment is, in my experience.
(I also recognize the inherent irony of doing this in a thread about empty praise, heh.)
Re:Toxic positivity does more harm than good
by butwhywhyoh on Saturday January 16, 2021 @07:33PM
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I don't think you said the word "gaslighting" enough times.
Re:Toxic positivity does more harm than good
by im_down_w_otp on Saturday January 16, 2021 @10:14PM
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I can't tell if you're gaslighting me or not.