As a queer person myself, I think your trust in the "gay experience" of rich guys is dangerous.

We just had this Szajer scandal, where a powerful outspoken homophobe was caught in an gay orgy.

The gay experience (shame, rejection and discrimination) also comes with increased chance of "co-morbid" personality defects, which may be more pronounced worh exceptional wealth and status.

Queer solidarity by gay men is not a given anymore.