I answered generically because my comment was about a libinput "issue" which affects all distributions and desktop environments. (Queue 2021 is the year of linux desktop).

Personally, I see this change as a regression from the highly configurable synaptics driver.

As you've asked, distribution wise I typically run an Ubuntu LTS with Gnome 3 but rolling releases such as Manjaro and lightweight DE like XFCE are also very nice.