Re:Ask HN: I'm a programmer and I hate my teammate. Should I...
by 66antigravity on Tuesday January 05, 2021 @08:49AM
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I think you should talk to him first.
Tell him how you feel about working with him, why he makes you angry. Do it in a well-behaved manner, dont try to argue, just try to explain your feelings. I know, it must be hard for you to open up, since you are an introvert. But bear in mind that in any job there is someone who you will not like, so changing a job might not be a solution. So dont worry, you wont break anything, nobody should be angry at you only for a small talk about your feelings.
After you pick up your courage and talk to him, wait what will happen. Maybe you will need to do it second time. If it will not stop, just talk to somebody else above him and somebody may find a better solution for you two.
Re:Ask HN: I'm a programmer and I hate my teammate. Should I...
by mrstefan on Tuesday January 05, 2021 @09:02AM
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It sounds extremely uncomfortable to me, but I know it is good advice. I don't know if I can get the courage to have this conversation. Anyway, thank you very much.
Tell him how you feel about working with him, why he makes you angry. Do it in a well-behaved manner, dont try to argue, just try to explain your feelings. I know, it must be hard for you to open up, since you are an introvert. But bear in mind that in any job there is someone who you will not like, so changing a job might not be a solution. So dont worry, you wont break anything, nobody should be angry at you only for a small talk about your feelings.
After you pick up your courage and talk to him, wait what will happen. Maybe you will need to do it second time. If it will not stop, just talk to somebody else above him and somebody may find a better solution for you two.