Just to be sure, isn't a container a whole linux distribution as well depending on your base image? With the same distribution team, etc.?
That not updating part is of course just plain and simply bad advice.
What solutions for update management would you recommend in the VM space?
But there are other vectors. With a VM you get a whole linux distribution, which of course increases the attack surface, but at the same time you also get much better isolation and that distribution's team of maintainers looking over your software, providing security patches, advisories, a simple way to update the system and so on. On the other hand there exist 'docker best practices' tutorials (not the posted one) that recommend not updating your base system at all in the name of reproducibility. Docker's solution to update management is manual image tagging and manual updates, possibly with help of external tooling. I don't think that's a good solution for that problem.
Imo the overall best solution is to run stuff in VMs and pick a lightweight distro for that.