Re:I am lonely will anyone speak to me
by fuckminster_b on Friday December 25, 2020 @01:53AM
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Truth be told, chances are pretty high that being alone can work out for someone hanging out in a place like HN. For the grand majority of people, being alone is a drain on their wellbeing, no matter how well they may adjust to it.
But for a select few, being alone can be a preferred state over having to share a place and time. If you can embrace the fact that you are different than most (and fuck them!) and if you can make your alone time fulfilling, you may be one of those lucky few who don't need company to recharge your 'battery'.
A pretty sure tell is when you actually consider socializing a drain.
Living without a family or community is like running a marathon.
There's something virtuous about learning to say "fuck you" to your brain's self-protection circuitry, experiencing the hell it raises, and staying the course. Any healthy person could manage it. Many would be better off for the conditioning and the experience.
But pushing on the edges of your design parameters is not going to be sunshine and rainbows. It's supposed to hurt. You should be "OK" in the sense of "stronger than the pain and will make it" not "feeling good."
And it's probably going to hurt a lot more if it's pushed on you from outside vs. a decision to challenge yourself.