Have an external focus. Don't think about what you want, think about what you want to give. This plays into knowing your customer (or whoever you are doing whatever for). Know your customer, and give them what they want. Notice that doesn't mean "create what they want", but understand their goals, and then help them reach their goals.

This is very work focused, but can also play into other parts of your life. Why do you want to be healthy? Maybe so you can be around for your children or parents. Why do you want to be sociable or funny? So you can enjoy your time with your friends, etc etc.

Externalize the goal.