there's a degree of social intelligence involved with your examples. It's not really about "thinking for yourself", as everything is about context. uou don't have to completely become the other person in order to empathize. For most people it does not require strenous effort.

evolution is all about the ability to fit in. this includes the ability to be your own person with your own opinions. a well adapted person can do that and still being a part of the group/society