This is a point where Part III of Scott Alexander's [parable of the talents](https://slatestarcodex.com/2015/01/31/the-parable-of-the-tal...) might be worth linking to.

TLDR: Scott and his younger brother were both enrolled in piano class. His brother took to it and is now an internationally known musician. Scott meanwhile started off trying equally hard but never got anywhere in music - but won writing competition after writing competition without it feeling like effort to him.