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Re:Ask HN: Are you depressed? by hutzlibu on Sunday November 15, 2020 @12:46PM (#25103077)
Well, if after 13 years of relationship he planned a marriage and did not noticed his girlfriend planning to leave, there was probably something deeply wrong with that relationship in the first place. A marriage would not have likely not changed that, only cemented. Probably also nothing what he wants to hear, but maybe what he needs to hear. Truth can hurt.

Alternative is digging into self loathing of how he should have proposed earlier to make it work, etc.

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Re:Ask HN: Are you depressed? by cercatrova on Monday November 16, 2020 @06:10AM (#25110380)
Exactly, it sounds harsh but if someone was with you for 13 years and leaves 6 months after you're jobless, it probably wasn't just the unemployment that made them leave, it was probably a lot of other factors.
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