Re:So you've made a mistake and it's public
by grawprog on Friday November 13, 2020 @03:48PM
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>Something I learned that helped is: you can hurt someone without being wrong
>It often doesn't matter how legitimate someones' complaint is according to my personal worldview; what matters is how the affected feel.
I can't get behind this. Why am I responsible for the way the chemicals in someone's brain react if I say something that unintentionally hurts them? If i'm doing nothing wrong as you say and someone else is offended, or sad or hurt, that's honestly their problem.
People need to take responsibility for their feelings instead of making everyone else take responsibility for their feelings.
Why should I ever be responsible for the way someone feels unless i've done something intentionally to make them feel that way?
People's feelings are their own business, nobody else has the unintentional responsibility of random people's arbitrary feelings.
>It often doesn't matter how legitimate someones' complaint is according to my personal worldview; what matters is how the affected feel.
I can't get behind this. Why am I responsible for the way the chemicals in someone's brain react if I say something that unintentionally hurts them? If i'm doing nothing wrong as you say and someone else is offended, or sad or hurt, that's honestly their problem.
People need to take responsibility for their feelings instead of making everyone else take responsibility for their feelings.
Why should I ever be responsible for the way someone feels unless i've done something intentionally to make them feel that way?
People's feelings are their own business, nobody else has the unintentional responsibility of random people's arbitrary feelings.