I had to fight my Chinese wife's tooth and nail not to play in that shame game "but everyone else has a huge diamond ring". My god, get it yourself, it's just a ring, I won't do like some friends who borrow on 5 years to buy one so big the girl is scared to wear it and put it in a safe...

I bought her a small 300 euros one, she found it almost insulting but after a month, stopped wearing it "because it's a bit heavy" and "it's just a ring, it's true it doesn't really matter". 5 years later, we're still married with a child and she wouldn't even remember where she put the "diamond".