I’m married now, but I had a realization a while ago that all the women I’ve dated or hooked up with were because I made it extremely clear what I was interested in, and not accepting being put in a friend-zone.

It’s not quite as bold as Feynman’s approach, but clear intentions and not trying to hedge a situation or avoiding being shot down was the key to success for me.

On multiple occasions I met a girl and just said out loud to my friends or hers that I am going to date her/go home with her and in the case of my wife I told some of her friends that I was going to marry that girl. My wife and I took another 5 years after that to get the timing right, but when either of us were single we’d start chatting again.