Re:Never Pay for Online Dating (2010)
by indigo945 on Thursday November 12, 2020 @02:30AM
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> Lesbian Norah Vincent spent a year living as a man and practically had a mental breakdown (timestamp is where they discuss cold-approach dating and rejection):
To be clear, she had a mental breakdown when at a therapy session with a bunch of men who were talking about chopping up their wives. The context in your post frames it as if it had been because of her lack of success in dating, but that's not what it was. (Also, she talks about how she actually had dating success to the point that straight women she was dating would agree to sleep with her even after finding out that she has female parts. I wish I was that hot.)
Re:Never Pay for Online Dating (2010)
by ad404b8a372f2b9 on Thursday November 12, 2020 @06:49AM
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In multiple interviews she explains that the building anxiety from the whole experiment led to her breakdown. The group session might have been particularly traumatic but it's not an isolated incident where her mental state went from 100 to 0, so the GP isn't inaccurate to state that living as a man for a year gave her a nervous breakdown, to be clear.
Re:Never Pay for Online Dating (2010)
by Cthulhu_ on Thursday November 12, 2020 @04:36AM
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Wow that's pretty disingenuous of the guy you're quoting, it's almost as if he's holding a grudge or has an Agenda.
"Triple-digit notch count"? I'm sorry, but barf. Who tallies the women he's slept with? I'll tell you who: a stone-cold loser.
Re:Never Pay for Online Dating (2010)
by honkdaddy on Thursday November 12, 2020 @08:57AM
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The alternative makes less sense to me - who loses count of the amount of partners they had? It's one number to remember, I'd posit that the majority of people, whether deliberately or not, do keep track of that.
Calling them "stone-cold losers" for remembering a number doesn't make any sense to me.
A lot of it boils down to mental framing. In other words, think of yourself as providing an opportunity for someone to participate in something great. If they don't take advantage of that opportunity, that's their loss not yours. One of the best quotes is from Patrice O'Neal: "You MUST believe in your own righteousness."