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Re:The U.S. Divorce Rate Has Hit a 50-Year Low by frenchy on Wednesday November 11, 2020 @12:06PM (#25060197)
Well, for one thing, the marriage party can be a lot of fun (but I agree that many people spend way too much thing). I think the event (because it is a point in time) can bring some sort of "closure" to the parents, though this is mostly more significant in younger marriages, which are less common.

I really have know idea why we do the official registration bit. Presumably it makes life easier for the bureaucrates, which I don't particularly mind. If you had a mariage cerremony, and started calling yourselvs married without actually doing the paperwork, would anyone actually care?

Re:The U.S. Divorce Rate Has Hit a 50-Year Low by SOLAR_FIELDS on Wednesday November 11, 2020 @12:41PM (#25060618)
> If you had a maraige cerremony, and started calling yourselvs married without doing the paperwork, would anyone actually care?

If you are lucky enough to live in one of the few remaining places in the world where common-law marriage is still allowed, you can do precisely this. You essentially cohabitate for some amount of time (in my jurisdiction there is actually no set minimum time though I imagine the longer you live together the more legal water it holds) and then just tell people in public that you are married. No paperwork necessary.

I managed to make it four years under such an agreement with my partner doing things such as buying a house, relocating internationally, sharing taxes, finances and medical insurance, without actually needing paperwork. Relocating internationally was the trickiest, but after explanation to the new country of the law they were willing to accept the document that showed we bought a house together as evidence of our marriage.

Eventually this year we finally had to get some paperwork, forced to by, believe it or not, government bureaucrats who would absolutely not allow me to be placed under my partner’s medical insurance (government employee) without marriage documents. Fortunately our jurisdiction allows you to get a piece of paper that just says something like “We decided we were married on this date and the county affirms it”. The paper is stamped by the county and filed like typical marriage paperwork, takes about 5 minutes and does not require a judge.

Overall if someone wants the benefits of marriage without all of the pomp and circumstance and happens to be lucky enough to live in one of the jurisdictions where common law marriage is allowed, I can recommend it.

Re:The U.S. Divorce Rate Has Hit a 50-Year Low by berdario on Wednesday November 11, 2020 @09:22PM (#25065703)
I had no idea that such places existed. I looked it up, and one of them for example is Ontario:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common-law_marriage#Ontario

Re:The U.S. Divorce Rate Has Hit a 50-Year Low by lotsofpulp on Wednesday November 11, 2020 @12:33PM (#25060498)
> I really have know idea why we do the official registration bit. Presumably it makes life easier for the bureaucrates, which I don't particularly mind. If you had a mariage cerremony, and started calling yourselvs married without actually doing the paperwork, would anyone actually care?

The registration bit is the most important part, it’s not bureaucratic. For the same reason that you need to have documents drawn up to form a business partnership, it’s for when things go sideways. The registration is the proof that both parties entered into a contract, enforceable by the government.

Re:The U.S. Divorce Rate Has Hit a 50-Year Low by astura on Wednesday November 11, 2020 @04:30PM (#25063242)
It's so important a lot of people (like me) just skip the party and just go straight to the registration part.
Re:The U.S. Divorce Rate Has Hit a 50-Year Low by texasbigdata on Wednesday November 11, 2020 @12:15PM (#25060289)
With $x0,000 you can have a hell of a party regardless...