Except there really was one candidate who would have been happy to kill democracy.

I can't speak for the beliefs or rationale of the people who voted for him but its crystal clear what Donald Trump stood for.

I don't think its dehumanizing to talk about the fact that lots people, many or most individually good, chose to vote for a sexist, racist, authoritarian.

And does anybody really doubt at this point that Trump is those things?

Even though it is a difficult, unpleasant, and heated conversation to have.