Re:The Need for Touch
by FrankyHollywood on Tuesday October 27, 2020 @09:41AM
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haha, you gave me a good laugh there, nicely spoken! :)
But you are right. People who are lonely or depressed are better off having some good friends they can call to hang out on a Friday night. Having some huggy colleague or kisses from you aunt don't make you feel better.
My experience is that an intimate relation with someone is nice at first, but as more people have said in this thread, it fades away after some years. I personally never feel better than having a great night with friends.
Re:The Need for Touch
by randomperson321 on Tuesday October 27, 2020 @09:04AM
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Should those really be considered "no touch" cultures? I would assume most couples, even within those cultures, touch each other frequently.
The article itself is filled with ridiculous pleonasms and nonsense statements:
>The language of touch also affects the way that we relate to ourselves and our bodies across the lifespan, with profound impacts on our psychological wellbeing
WTF does this even mean? Followed by "citations needed."
>As a scientist, but also as a fellow human, I claim the right to touch, and to dream of a reality where no one will be touchless.
Get away from me creepy science lady!
In all seriousness, this is article is a load of West Coast american New Age horse shit. There are entire cultures of no-touchy people: for example, the Nordics, Chinese, Koreans, Japanese. They tend to be more long-lived, happy and vastly more free of mental illness than West Coast Americanos who gabble on about muh therapeutic touch (and who also post HN articles about the mystical wisdom of .... Nordics and Japanese when it comes to their ancient and mysterious customs such as going outside sometimes[0][1]). There's something infantile and needy about over-touchers. Cultures which have different conceptions of shared space (I dunno southern Europeans, Arabs) also have plenty of boundaries -the touchy feely types don't, and I think the latter are the ones with problems.
Lonely people: if you have something that prevents you from making friends in the ordinary way, please buy a dog or something and leave us non-touchy feely people alone.
[0] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=20877796
[1] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=24886440