Guilt is a double-edged sword. It's entirely possible to have too much of it, where it becomes not only a detriment to your well-being but even, ironically, to that of the people around you. It sounds like her husband has this kind of guilt and that they've had a really mutually-beneficial relationship balancing each other out.

Ideally there would be compassion as a driving factor, rather than guilt.

I find it deeply depressing that people always seem to reach for guilt as opposed to compassion in these situations. I really hope they just didn't think about it, or were trying to be edgy. Imagine going through life assuming kindness is motivated only by guilt...

Does it really require feeling guilty though? Sometimes I do. On the other hand I have put off family obligations and felt guilty about it afterward, but prioritized family when there were things I’d rather do and felt quite good about it.

Truly great headline on this article