Are you saying that because (JavaScript!) functions have a "length" property representing number of arguments, they are all O(N) (or greater)? (btw I don't see how "this" fits in here.)
The only way I can see it making sense is because a function could take arbitrarily many arguments. Why on earth would that matter if the function doesn't do anything with those arbitrarily many arguments? We may not know in advance what a caller gives to a function, but of course we know what the function does with its arguments--it's a function's body that we're analyzing and classifying a Big-O for!
And as to your second point, the choice of what is and isn't a constant-time operation is generally a practical concession. There's no reason to say "you can't say anything about any algorithm because it's an implementation detail" here. The conversation is specifically about element presence in an unsorted array. A very simple, easily understood, and unambiguous algorithm. Bringing up the runtime of the operation in a hashtable or in tree-structures is entirely nonsensical and just destroys any conversation there is to be had.