I have all sorts of thoughts that I don't act on, or actively work to counteract. Should I be judged on these thoughts that, to a first approximation, I cannot control[1] yet I don't let affect what I do?

I'm flawed, but I used to be more so. A big part of that improvement is thanks to the people that judged my actions and not every aberrant thought that entered my head.

[1] responsibility is there of course, and I work to reduce their future frequency. But that change takes time, and until then the best remedy to unwanted ingrained patterns is to not act on them.