Both could survive on far less.
Hell no. If you're in the top 1% of income (~$400k per year) you are wealthy.
And yes, I believe that if you sell your labor for a living, whether it be for $400k at Apple or otherwise, you have more in common with someone making $24k bussing tables than you do with the person who owns property for a living.
If you're making $400k per year, how long before you start to accumulate substantial wealth? Pretty quickly I'd say. Sure it might not be millions, but if you sock away $200k at age 25 after 3 years, you have more wealth than 99% of people your age.
"Wealthy" is not limited to wealth alone. If you're making $2M a year and have no savings, you're still "wealthy".
And people with large amount of wealth (your definition) can still become destitute. There are plenty of examples.
That $400k post tax is mostly going into housing.