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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by frankie_t on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @08:13AM (#24566048)
>stopped considering questions in terms of my own preferences and started considering them in terms of how they would connect me to others

Feeling connection to others is one of your own preferences, ultimately you act in your own interest anyway.

The tricky part for me is to evaluate my preferences when they are in conflict and choose what is optimal.

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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by bumby on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @09:03AM (#24566513)
Maybe it’s about optimizing for long-term fulfillment vs. short-term happiness?
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