How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes

Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by kome on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @03:55AM (#24564241)

beautifully written. Indeed my problem is the contrary to the one in the article "How to say yes, for people closed in themselves who always say no."

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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by unabst on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @04:58AM (#24564679)

So to put them together: people who say no too much are self-tortured, and people who say yes too much are tortured by others.

Learning to say yes sounds great, but you're on the path to becoming a people pleaser. And people pleasers who listen to NPR and learn to say no are now on the path to... prioritizing themselves over relationships and self-torture.

This can't be right. How do we not torture ourselves?

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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by numpad0 on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @05:27AM (#24564865)

Oversimplification: to live is to suffer

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Re:How to say no, for the people pleaser who always says yes by cutemonster on Wednesday September 23, 2020 @06:41AM (#24565342)

Too much, or too little, both can be bad. Also in other areas, like, eating or working out

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