In some cases perhaps it isn't, in others it is. Who are you to decide for them? Grow a little empathy and compassion, perhaps. No one is asking you to use particular pronouns in order to piss you off; they're doing it in order to feel comfortable in their own skin. It's petty, selfish, and inhuman to deny someone that.

What's next, if I'm not handing over $100/week then I'm damaging their existence? No. If you want me to do something to accommodate you then ask nicely. If you demand the right to put words in my mouth and control what I think, you can fuck off.