They ask me how they have to talk and to be so a woman likes them, what to avoid, what to do etc. Of course there is some very general conversational things that one can do (e.g. striking a good balance between not getting to personal and not staying to vague, revealing your inner workings a bit, but not too much etc), but they are not specific to talking to women. If you ever catch yourself to totally be a different person, maybe ask yourself how you'd ever expect to figure out if that person likes you as a person, or the image you represent?

And you should ask yourself if you even have the chance to ask yourself the same question about her. Suprisingly, women are people as well. Most nerds wouldn't feel like talking to 80% of male collegues - maybe because they are boring, mean, idiots, extroverts, whatever. So why would that be different for the female side? Because they have a female body? Forget that they are a women for a moment and try to get to know the person and make sure they get a chance to get to know you (the person) as well. If they don't like you, it might not have worked out anyways. If they like you, but you don't then you found out something as well.

Of course the whole being attracted to someone-thing makes this harder, because whe like to see the person we are attracted to in the best light, where in fact we still have to figure out who she really is.